Advice on seeing a solicitor
24 September 2018 at 11:49 am #16065
I am in the early stages of a marriage breakup. My husband is having an affair and has left the marital home. I have spoken to a solicitor for a free half hour. I am confused if they can actually give me proper legal advice as what is best to do for me and my children. I left the conversation the other day just feeling like they literally do the basics to legally bring the marriage to an and and are not able to help advice me what I should be doing? Could anybody tell me their experience of dealing with a solicitor and what to expect? I feel totally lost at the moment24 September 2018 at 6:54 pm #16074
Do not trust the solicitors they will take your money. If he’s left just call him and be nice and friendly about maintenance then leave it and see what happens . Once the legal people know you have property they will want paying . Just be polite even If you can’t stand him and try and do things through text and emails as you will need evidence24 September 2018 at 10:03 pm #16086
Thank your for your advice sherima24 September 2018 at 10:15 pm #16087
I found the ‘citizens advice’ were great. Find a local office amd go and talk to someone face to face , they will help you fill out forms etc… also. If you want the ins and outs of your situation from a solicitor then make sure you have at least 200 in your pocket when you go. But being on line you can find out loads and do it yourself. Theres mediation that you can go to. Basically you and your partner and the mediator will be there and you talk about whats going to happen/happening now. But again its all money. I agree with the last message from the lady. ‘Stay calm’.25 September 2018 at 12:06 pm #16095
Thanks Chris. I have been to my clocal citzens advice. I didnt find them very helpful. I am going to a mediation session next week and my husband has one today. We have to pay for the sessions. I am just worried I might lose out on something I am entitled too. Sometimes my husband seems reasonable and other times not. I am struggling to believe he has both our interests at heart when he has told so many lies. He wants me to sell the house but I don’t know if I should see the solitor first. It’s all very confusing.25 September 2018 at 6:39 pm #16109
Even if you have children your husband has rights. You can be forced to sell even if u don’t want to. Where is your husband living because he can’t pay 2 sets of bills . It does not matter how much he lied you can’t stay In home and expect him to pay out . My husband sold the home to me and he was the one who faired better as he hid his money and had another home that was paid off for in the West end .25 September 2018 at 9:46 pm #16116
He is currently staying at his sisters Sherima but is planning to rent. He wants to sell the house so he can get his own mortgage26 September 2018 at 12:00 am #16117
Go on wikivorce website use the forum to get advice on financial settlement and how to proceed. It’s fantastic was a lifesaver for me.
Sorry you are in this situation. I’ve just come through the other side. Don’t panic. You need your wits about you. Wishing you strength xxxxx
I also read the book runaway husbands by vikki stark. It was very helpful she has a website xx26 September 2018 at 7:02 am #16119
You can only find out so much in your free half hour with a solicitor.
Mediation is useful before having to go down the solicitor route, especially if you don’t have the means to pay unless you are a victim of domestic abuse, then you will get legal aid.
If you are on a low income, you can get help with the cost of mediation or it will be free. You will need proof etc. Hope this helps.26 September 2018 at 8:09 pm #16156
When you go to mediation they will ask you both to declare your outgoings. If it goes to court the judge will try to keep you in the home but if you can’t afford you will have to downsize or get a job that will help you pay your bills.
I work.and got a mortgage to help me stay in my house.