Given that he took lo and didn’t return, you need to get a residency order stating lo lives with you that way the police get involved and he has to return lo.
Until then refuse any contact or preferably offer contact in a supervised centre at his cost. This is the reasonable thing to do from a court perspective.
Moving forward I think that contact will need discussing more fully. Given he’s relocated he cannot expect to have the same relationship he would have had in London. That’s the consequences of his choices.
As a rule now lo is weaning he would be able to have lo for more hours building up to full day’s. So that by eighteen months ish you’re working towards overnights. These would then usuallubbe established around two.
going via court would probably be better in your scenario for all of contact issues. That way the court decides what’s in your child’s best interests. As atm there will be a gulf between you both as parents.
Does your ex have family lock to you? If so a court may do overnights at his grandparents for example. Building up to multiple overnights in Manchester further down the line.
Does he pay maintenance? Be aware if paying via cms he can claim travel costs and it would be deducted from your award.
SOLOMUMMY 1 year ago.
