Advice on if a court order is what i need

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    Hi guys I am in a dilemma


    me and my ex split 3 years ago we have a 5 year old son, I also have an 12 year old daughter from a previous relationship. when we split I got to see my son 3 nights a week and it was on the same time as my daughter this is what I wanted to keep there relationship going too. after about 6 months my ex started messing with days some days I would turn up shes not answering door sometimes it would be well I want this day now to replace another, if I argued she would then say either do that or don’t see him. sometimes this went on for months as I was fighting for my son and daughter to see eachother not only me.

    I would eventually give on because I missed him so much. since then  there has been more messing and changing of days her latest one is she wants whole weekends child free so she can go out. so Saturday to Tuesday am school drop off, my daughter I have Tuesday Thursday then alternate weekend day, she knows this and when I said its not ideal as I cannot have social life but I will if I can have jack a Tuesday or Thursday to match his sister. I was told no way its this or I don’t see him.


    this is how its going along with abusive texts which ive reported twice to the police. I have now been told I cannot see him xmas eve or xmas day and this is on top of me asking every year to take him on a summer holiday and being told no.


    the advice I need is if a court order would help? I know its financial outlay but I cant keep doing this its unfair on me and the kids


    I have always paid CSA and never missed a payment. I have also never stopped even when she kept him.


    would a judge see my point? I just want a pattern that allows him to see me but keep a relationship with his sister, I also want to see him either xmas eve or day and at least 1 week every summer.


    my previous experience with csa showed me dads don’t have any power. but do you think me doing 1 session mediation then applying for court order is the way to go? will there be repercussions if she breaks it? she wont go to mediation I know this so 1 session would be all that’s needed.


    thanks all for any advice

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