I need advice on how to set up the Children arrangements after a divorce process. I’ve read several information available on the web and in call cases the general advice is to “do what is the best for the children”; I definitely agree with that, but it’s difficult to have a clear and objective idea on what will be the best arrangement for them considering their ages and needs. If anybody have some information to share, or could recommend any professional service, or is open to share their own experience over the phone or a coffee, will be much appreciated. Tks.
I’ve just joined the forum as we’re just going through separation now and we’re getting through this discussion these days so can’t even claim to have been fully through this, but for what it’s worth –
We’ve not fully settled this, but I’m grateful that we started with agreeing the base of equal share, talking through whether this is practical from work point of view (luckily – it is) and what the kids need (were both good hands on parents).
I felt that once this base was laid things got less charged and easier as it became a question of pattern, and we’re still trying to figure out the balance between multiple changeovers but shorter periods away from either parent to week-on/week-off arrangement which provides more stability but more time away which we will all struggle with.
I think each situation is different. Ages of children, whether one parent is the primary career, what accommodation is available, distance from each parent, work hours/commitments, etc etc. Some parents do alternate weekends, alternate midweeks, shared holidays, others do alternate weeks. Maybe put together a basic framework and if you can both remain flexible you can adjust it as needs be? If your children are older, they could provide some input too?