Hi
I’ve just joined the forum as we’re just going through separation now and we’re getting through this discussion these days so can’t even claim to have been fully through this, but for what it’s worth –
We’ve not fully settled this, but I’m grateful that we started with agreeing the base of equal share, talking through whether this is practical from work point of view (luckily – it is) and what the kids need (were both good hands on parents).
I felt that once this base was laid things got less charged and easier as it became a question of pattern, and we’re still trying to figure out the balance between multiple changeovers but shorter periods away from either parent to week-on/week-off arrangement which provides more stability but more time away which we will all struggle with.