Advice needed. Seeing my children after divorce
3 February 2021 at 10:50 pm #49029
it’s still not easy to get 50/50 in court. courts don’t seem to like giving it when there is lot of conflict between parents and their not communicating directly about kids arrangements. It was out of the question for me. I asked can the court order be changed to state that children live with both parents. they would not even do that lol.4 February 2021 at 7:24 am #49034
I’m sorry I didnt realise a d certainly didnt mean to give you rubbish advice! The experience I had has been totally different. I have my kids but they go to their dads every other wkend and 50/50 over school holidays. This is because we do not live in the same city. The other divorced parents around here seem to be doing a 50/50. I think it also depends on what judge you get.4 February 2021 at 5:47 pm #49067
Steve3334 you are right in what you are saying. You are not entitled to 50-50 you have to fight for it. Most people that do 50-50 where parents are split up have normally agreed it out of court or early stages of family court by consent. Dads generally if they live close by end up with 10/12 nights out of 28 and half of the holidays. If you live a distance away or u work during week then its every other weekend. If there are safeguarding issue or DV allegations then contact can be a lot less5 February 2021 at 4:50 am #49080
Yes,so true about the nightmare of your supposed partner for life becoming your enemy….then you’re supposed to let them look after your kids that you have put your every waking minute into! I wonder if anyone ever recovers completely from this.But then a lot of people claim they get on better than ever after they’re divorced….different strokes for different folks maybe🙃24 February 2021 at 4:09 pm #50158
I completed my initial assessment with the mediators I contacted. They contacted my ex who has now told me that she has contacted another mediator and would like to go through them. I have already done a costly initial assessment and I am being asked to pay another £150 for this new initial assessment.
I also believe that the new mediator is also their solicitor. Is this possible and if so, should I be wary of this at all?
thanks24 February 2021 at 7:44 pm #50159
It is possible.Obviously it would be helpful to keep in mind that this is a legal system-not a justice system- so it depends how crooked their solicitor is.It’s a cheek that she asked you to change to a different mediator after you have already paid yours,but you didn’t write if she was aware of that or not.Personally it sounds very fishy to me considering the way they’ve treated you till now acc to your posts and I would go into this expecting it to be rigged in her favour….But that’s just my opinion.Good luck.I hope it goes better than all this.24 February 2021 at 8:04 pm #50161
Yes before I had even contacted the mediation company I had let my ex and her Father know I was doing that. They contacted this mediator after being asked to mediate with them
I have responded saying I am keen to mediate but for transparency can you tell me if you have any connection with my ex or her family previously.
I wish this could be done like adults but I am wishing for too much at this stage24 February 2021 at 10:14 pm #50166
if its just stalling and wasting time and money, you could say you no longer with to take part in mediation, and perhaps they may sign you off to apply to court.24 February 2021 at 10:41 pm #50170
But sometimes that’s shooting yourself in the foot bc it works in your favour to appear as if you’re jumping thru all their hoops.But there again sometimes not bc if you keep at it they won’t stop inventing excuses to twist you round their fingers in the hopes that you will eventually crack.It’s psychological warfare.Have fun.