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    Hi I am new here and looking for some advice. I have two children. (one of which has sen needs… Suspected autism) I am intending to leave my partner. We are unmarried and have a joint mortgage with some equity, I. Currently not working, and am worried to find a part time job incase this goes against me with regards to amount of custody.

    He has been emotionally abusive, altho he is currently being OK. He has historically threatened to leave and get custody of the kids and alot of other manipulative things, I know this is unlikely but he and his family need to be in control (as witnessed with his siblings seperation) and I am confused as to what my rights are with regards to custody and housing as we are unmarried. I know he will go for 50% custody altho this worries me as it wud actually be more time parenting than he currently does, as he tends to focus on playing with the kids rather than other parenting tasks I am worried he wouldn’t cope well and the kids wud suffer, especially with my child’s sen needs.


    I’m waffling sorry, any advice on what I should do or options would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

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    I feel you’re not fully explaining the whole background here, which is ok, but makes it difficult to respond – I strongly suggest you try one or both of the following in anonymity – they have great advice from social workers / legal / etc.

    Support with any parenting problem: Family Lives 9am-9pm weekdays, 10am-3pm weekends FREE helpline 0808 800 2222


    Support with any parenting problem: Family Action 6pm – 10pm weekdays, 10am – 1pm weekends FREE helpline 0808 8020 2220



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    Maybe see if you can get a free session with a solicitor to see your position, or the gingerbread helpline – they are good at directing to appropriate places x

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