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    Mamahunter
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    Hi

    I am new here so go easy on me! My ex left me 2 yrs ago for another woman with 4 kids. They now have another together. My DS (7yrs) sees his dad every Sunday due to his working hours. Most times my DS doesn’t want to go to his dads as he never gets to spend time with just the 2 of them even though his dad has promised him it can be just the 2 of them. Whenever he is at his dads he is ignored or left to play computer games by himself or has to play with his dads gf kids who are much older than him. I have never stopped my son seeing his dad even though one of her children has an ASBO and there were drugs at the house one time. I am now in a wonderful relationship with a lovely man  (for 18 months) who has 2 kids of his own. My son absolutely dotes on him & gets on well with his kids of similar age. We have now bought a house together 50 miles away from my ex due to it being where my new partner lives, it is a much nicer area with better prospects for all of us. He has a great job & a close family nearby who have taken me and my boy under their wing. My ex has no objections to us moving & we have agreed that  if my son is ok with it, he will stay every other wkend at his dads, then every other wkend with me. I have even offered to meet him half way for drop off/pick up times. So after a long winded post my question is, I will have no-one to babysit for my son except my new partner (we will be getting married eventually) or his family. Are they allowed to look after my DS or do I need my ex’s permission to have people looking after him? He can be verbally agressive at times but don’t want him to be able to dictate every little thing in my life as I am the resident parent. He doesn’t tell me who my son is mixing with when he is in his care.

    #11706 Report

    Sorry, struggling to follow – why and when do you need someone to babysit your son?

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    Mamahunter
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    Hi Khaleesi

    I don’t need anyone to babysit at the moment it was if the need ever arose when I might need a babysitter ie night out or something.

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    Mamahunter
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    Thanks Anonymous

    That is much appreciated. I suffer with anxiety so it was really getting me down!! Even though my ex has parental responsibility I was just wondering to what degree he can have an input. I have heard that my ex can take my boy anywhereor do anything with him when he is in his care but just wanted to make sure the same applied to me. I know he will b#*×h and moan but as long as there is nothing he can do about it I will take that.

    Thank you

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