Advice as father doesn't pay maintenance but will buy xmas pressies

[Casper100Participant]

Hi – I am really torn as to what is the best thing to do. Ex lives overseas and hasnt paid maintenance for 12 months and I cant touch him. He will pay for phone and wants to have the Xmas list …tells me he has no money which is why he doesnt pay for the basics so is it fair he can buy xmas pressies. My daughter is 12 yrs old so she obvs wants the pressies and  I want her to have them or something from him..but is it the right thing to do ?? xx

[SOLOMUMMYParticipant]

In which country does he live?

[Casper100Participant]

In Thailand so there is no agreement between UK to obtain anything via CSA

[SOLOMUMMYParticipant]

So he’s not in a REMO country 🙄

 

no chance hes working for a British company?

 

ive heard of someone getting claims against a person sobtgat when they reentered uk it was then retrievable. But not aware of the ins and outs.

 

sadly, if he opts to send presents I wouldn’t be dismissing them as that would come to bite you on the bum so to speak.

 

Its galling. But nothing you can do besides investigating above as presumably at some point he intends to return to uk unless he’s a Thai National?

 

If it was me, I’d get all of the expensive things off the list to him and a few besides. Especially given so much is s lot cheaper out there!

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