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    MissT
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    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt; color: #454545;”>Injunction against the abusive other parent</span><span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt; color: #454545;”> </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>I’m looking for advice on any parent that has thought about or got an injunction against the abusive other parent. </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>I was in a emotionally and physically abusive relationship with my daughters father. Since her birth I broke free from his cycle of abuse and I have attended the Freedom Programme, informed health visitors, police, victims support and I go to counselling. </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>My daughter has just turned one and after taking her to visit her dad for the first time in 3 months (in a public place) I cried on the way home. I’m under a lot of stress and could be loosing my job due to no childcare which will mean I could eventually face homelessness. But I cried because he is so nasty and argumentative. Then I question if he is right when he tells me how I am as a person. He tells me things like, it’s all my fault that he hasn’t seen his daughter so much in the last year because I’m mad and I start arguments on purpose and I do things on purpose to “piss him off”. Then I almost start to believe him because he’s so convinced in his own lies. </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>So I’m thinking of just ending him to see our child completely by getting the help to put an injunction in place? </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>I’ve suggested he take us to court see her, because then we don’t have to communicate. He won’t dip into his big pockets to do that for his child. </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>Also to mention he’s been in prison, he has been a patient in a mental hospital in the past and has a undiagnosed personality disorder and heavily abuses Majorana.  </span>

    <span style=”font-family: ‘.SFUIText’; font-size: 17pt;”>I can’t handle him anymore in my life making me doubt myself and making me cry after each time I take his daughter to see him. I’m at my wits end. I can not continue my life like this. </span>

    • This topic was modified 1 year ago by  MissT.
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    Hi MissT

    Justine from Gingerbread here.  I’m sorry you are going through a difficult time.  I will be sending you an email with some signposting options which hopefully will be useful for you.

    Justine

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    Jeasicaaimeeee
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    Hey

    I’ve been in a very similar situation myself I did the freedom protect along with the recovery tool kit. I ended up stoping the contact all together as my sons father said he couldn’t cope along with the constant emotional abuse he still gave me after being apart a year and both getting new partners! I suggest maybe supervised contact or have you got a third party that would Be willing to drop your daughter off and pick her up from her dad and keeping a book in her bag so ignore she had a fall he could write it in there so you don’t have to have contact directly! I hope all works out and stay strong x

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