So my partner has asked me to leave by the 31/12/2020 I won’t bore you with the the relationship side of this my concern is my children, they are 5 and 9 and I am so worried about how this will affect them! Any ideas on when I should tell them? What to tell them? Me and my ex are getting along okay and to be honest I don’t think my kids can tell there is a problem we are still acting like a family.
Is it possible for you to sit down with your ex and discuss what you might tell the children? I recall telling my kids that dad and I weren’t getting on too well at the moment, just like the children might not get along with their friends at school all of the time. Sometimes people don’t want to be best friends anymore, we will still be friends but it means that we won’t share a house going forward. They’ll still get lots of time with each mum and dad, that won’t change. Maybe take them along to visit the new house when you find a suitable property? I found this got mine quite excited as they imagined staying there, and decorating their new bedrooms.
I guess they’ll be going back to school soon too so maybe this week wouldn’t be the best timing but anytime between mid sept and October holidays? It gives them time to adjust, if you find somewhere sooner than Xmas then go for it. Don’t leave it until Christmas as you might struggle to find the right property and it’d be really nice for you to be settled by then.