Accused of DV by abusive Ex

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    OneMoonOneStar
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    Hi all, I received court order forms for child arrangements on Friday along with allegations of domestic violence. I’m really shocked as in actual fact my ex is the one who has been abusing me for years. He’s also blamed a history of eating disorders and suspected relapse as a reason to take custody away from me. All of these are untrue 😢 I’m so worried and really hoping the court will see through his lies & tactics. Our hearing isn’t until 1 Feb. All previous DV he has caused to me is reported via help groups & the police. I also heard a rumour that he’s hacked my phone so am so scared of what he’ll divulge & twist in court.

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    it must be very stressful time for you. what I experienced through courts is these types of allegations usually get nowhere and can make the accuser look bad. it should be a child-focused process. Is he seeing the kids at all?

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    OneMoonOneStar
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    He sees them every other weekend & on a Wednesday evening after nursery. He is going for 50/50 custody but works 5 days a week and has never done that EVER! It’s very bizarre 🙁 I’m so upset & scared about the girls whole thing! He told me he would get nasty & go low to win so I should have expected it x

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    si7160
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    if he has hacked your phone or anything its a criminal offence and would be dismissed by the court as the information was obtained illegally is my understanding,

    I would ask a woman’s domestic abuse charity to check the legality of his actions

    my ex indicated she had copies of conversations from the security system in the family house when she no legal right to this system as she had been removed as a legal owner,

    my ex had relied on this for her court action

    conversations between the solicitors ensured that this should not go to a full court hearing  due to exposure to her client in court

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    steve3334
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    I think he is taking a gamble. my lawyer once told me the courts don’t like giving 50/50 arrangements   where the parents don’t get along and there’s lot of conflict. they will see whether his case is genuine, or if its some kind of power play to ‘defeat’ you so to speak.

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