I understand how frustrating that must be, personally I meet my ex in the same public location at a specific time each contact, both location and time of transfer have been previously agreed. I don’t communicate with him directly much at all, unless absolutely necessary (emergency delays). If he wasn’t present, the kids would be disappointed but id just take them home again and he would miss his contact, until the next scheduled time. Being the main carer/provider for our 3 children is responsibility enough without having to accommodate his ‘special requests’, harsh as it sounds, it works as everyone knows where they stand. syructure is not just good for the kids, it’s good for everyone.