Access communication issues

[Kaylee4187]

Hi all new to this site!

i split with my x last year and we have a 3 year old son. In the begining my x was very enthusiastic to have my son requesting 3 nights a week. Recently tho it appears he has lost interest since starting a new relationship only seeing him 1 to 2 nights a week. His comminication skills are shocking leaving me having to text him everytime to find out if hes collecting or if im dropping him off. When he does collect he ends up being 2 hours late using work excuses only for me to find out its because hes been with his new gf! Ive tried approaching the subject asking if he can take responsibility and put his son first but get accused of being the jealous x and that he knows how to parent his son!

my friends suggest going to a solicitor but im unsure what can be done its not that he wont have him but just doesnt give me clear times he uses his working shift patterns as an excuse and also when he does have him overnight tends to leave him with his parents to go out with the new gf!

i would be greatful if anyone can give me any advice on what i should do???

[Greenfingers]

I understand how frustrating that must be, personally I meet my ex in the same public location at a specific time each contact, both location and time of transfer have been previously agreed. I don’t communicate with him directly much at all, unless absolutely necessary (emergency delays). If he wasn’t present, the kids would be disappointed but id just take them home again and he would miss his contact, until the next scheduled time. Being the main carer/provider for our 3 children is responsibility enough without having to accommodate his ‘special requests’, harsh as it sounds, it works as everyone knows where they stand. syructure is not just good for the kids, it’s good for everyone.

[Greenfingers]

I understand how frustrating that must be, personally I meet my ex in the same public location at a specific time each contact, both location and time of transfer have been previously agreed. I don’t communicate with him directly much at all, unless absolutely necessary (emergency delays). If he wasn’t present, the kids would be disappointed but id just take them home again and he would miss his contact, until the next scheduled time. Being the main carer/provider for our 3 children is responsibility enough without having to accommodate his ‘special requests’, harsh as it sounds, it works as everyone knows where they stand. syructure is not just good for the kids, it’s good for everyone.

[Author]

Posts