hi, I’m new to this group and this situation. I’m currently going through separation with my ex partner. We have an 18months old son. Discussing access with our son is not the easiest. I have my son in a brilliant routine so to now change this up is really worrying me, but I am aware he needs to see his dad (not that he cared much when we were together. But now he’s acting very differently.I don’t know if it’s just a show). I’ve offered him 1 night a week and every other weekend. Is this reasonable. Can anyone suggest any other way of splitting the time up.
Hi, I dont know all the details, and what he was like when you were together, but all I can say is that you have to reverse the situation and ask yourself, how would you feel if that is all he was offering you. I know its hard to be away from your little one, but he is also a father and it may affect him as it would you being away from your Son. I have recently separated and was always a hands on father. I now get 2 afternoons a week for 1.5 hours each and every alternate Saturday. I have no overnights and am never able to bath or put my son to bed and I cant tell you the pain I am going through. Please put your son first and think what he would need/like…..its very hard, I know,,,,but your son is now the most important person in your life and you have to do whats best for him…all the best