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    I found out two weeks ago that I am 5 weeks pregnant now. My ex broke up with me just before as we have two different religions and plainly he doesn’t think I am the one. We have been dating for 3 months. It has been the most emotionally charging weeks of my life since finding out. He has been fluctuating between having an abortion and making a go at it as a family and he has now decided co-parenting is a better idea.
    I have been torn about making a decision as part of me hopes he would want to make it work once the bump grows and the baby shows on the scans. But I cannot rely on that and I don’t know if I can co-parent. I live alone and my family is abroad. It would be difficult in every way although he said he would be an involved dad.
    I don’t know if I have the heart to have an abortion and live with that decision. But can see single parent life is very difficult so I am torn with making a decision. I can see my mental health deteriorating.

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    Even if the pics of the bumps etc tie him back in, how long before he leaves you again? Would you want that uncertainty around you and your baby? Also, this anxiety cant be good for you whilst pregnant. Being a parent is hard work, and is a relationship changer. It knocks any average relationship. You say your family are abroad, again a huge part of raising a child is to have a support network. You appear to be in an extremely difficult situation, you need to do what is best for you. 

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    I am sorry to hear that. I think I know how it feels.  My expartner had different religion. I kept the baby. When he was 3 years old, his father said he wants to be part of our life. Wanted more children.  Currently I am pregnant with the same man, very religious,  who abandoned us. No family here either. I couldn’t live with an abortion. Fi d lots if support, everywhere.  Ask for support and help! I wish you all the best! Message me any time!

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    Hi Iulia,


    Really sorry to hear about your dilemma.


    Just to say that you should not just keep the baby just in case he comes back. You should do it for YOU!

    I have messaged you.


    All the best

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