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    Family Time
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    Hello , hope your all ok, given the current situation we all find ourselves in , nearly a year on from my husband walking out on us I m still feeling abandoned , he chose in court to not have a relationship with our two children may be a blessing in disguise as I’ve been able to settle them it’s been a long process and Xmas alone feels daunting , he continues to flaunt the person he left us for and her three children I hope in time karma is real and my heart no longer aches , Merry Christmas to you all may 2021 continue to help in the recovery process of heart break .

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    Gummibear123
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    Hello.

    It’s not surprising your feeling abandoned – he abandoned you & your kids.That happened to me as well & it’s been much longer than 1 year & I still feel it all the time in the back of my heart so to speak.Where I live separation and divorce is badly gossiped about and stigmatized so it has taken me a long time to get over it but it’s really true that ‘if it doesn’t kill you,it makes you stronger’,I find bc of what I’ve been thru i’m more resilient and can find compassion for others where my siblings cannot.It helps me when people are unkind or times are difficult.I hope you will at some point find the positive points in your suffering as it is really painful while it’s happening.I hope you have a better year in 2021.

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    Gummibear123
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    Ps Karma is So REAL! Just keep it chin up long enough & you’ll see! I did😋

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    Family Time
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    Hello , I hope 2021 has started well for you given the current situation we all find ourselves in , I have given up believing in karma I tried despite him cheating twice on me , I miss him all the time he doesn’t miss any of us tho he’s moved on is happy to play step parent to her three , I hurt for our own two everyday why are his own not good enough ? I’m back at work now which gives me something else to think about but as soon as I’m home it’s back to reality , I hope life is ok for you .

    Karen

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    I would urge you to look up the 5 stages of grief and see where you fit in:

    1.Anger

    2.Denial

    3.Bargaining

    4.Sadness/Depression

    5. Acceptance.

    he betrayed you. It will be difficult but you will have to come to terms with it and move on with your life, the way he is. In future he may regret abandoning his kids.

    • This reply was modified 3 months, 1 week ago by steve3334.
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    Gummibear123
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    Hi.

    Those stages of grief don’t always work in that order,you can find urself doing some repeats or you could skip a stage or just get hung up on one of them.Or u cld always do a few together to keep it interesting.There’s no clear cut rules but that’s a good rough draft..

    #47731 Report

    Family Time
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    Hello Steve 3334 , I have often looked at the stages and felt I’ve come through it just to find myself right back at the start , I’m definitely still angry and sad , nine years for nothing I tried so hard despite him having two affairs Iam angry i allowed him a second chance for him to do it again to me , I feel stupid all I wanted was to bring our girls up together but it no longer suits him , I will never abandon our children like he has I work hard for them so they understand and have morals , thank you for your reply I do need to start excepting now I just don’t know how

    Karen

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