Hi,
I split up with my now ex partner when I was 5 months pregnant. He went awol for the next 3 months and didn’t reply to my texts messages or calls. I wanted to know if he wanted any involvement with the baby or not, the pregnancy was planned and we were both excited about it so I was really confused when he ‘disappeared’ and then I got a text from him saying not to contact him about the baby or anything. I was really shocked, hurt, sad, angry – the whole range of emotions!
I then accepted that I was going to do this alone and not only that I was going to make it as positive and happy time as I could! How dare he put this dark and black cloud over something that is suppose to be such a happy event! I had the support of my Mum, friends and family. I knew I would need to lean on them but I knew I could and that it would be alright. We didn’t need him or his unacceptable attitude for our baby.
So I picked myself up and was determined to make the rest of my pregnancy happier. It was hard but I kept pushing on and pushing any sad and negative feelings away the best I could.
Then about a month before I gave birth, he made contact, he apologised and wanted to be involved and be at the birth. We met up and talked and I have to say he was brilliant and super supportive after that. He said he needed time away to get his head around our split and that we wouldn’t be a full time family.
We never got back together but he is very much all for our little girl who is 15 months and it all worked out okay.
I would arrange a alternative birthing partner and trust that all will work out okay.
Good luck x
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