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    richie
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    I took my ex to court over my 2 children with the help off legal aid, my ex wouldn’t respond to the courts or even turn up. then my ex made contact with me and decided that she would come week ends with the kids. I told the courts that she made contact with me and they said to me to end the case down, but that I could go back to court if that my ex left me again. that’s what she did to me left me, I made contact with her only to receive abuse from her telling me drop dead and kill myself, say my child of 8 that I’m not a daddy he is dead to me. This I think she saying bad things is because she can’t handle pressures and only knows how to be verbal. its got really bad to the extent that I’m not aloud round her mothers house to see the children, which haven’t even been round my ex house, theirs not no injunction on me, no convictions, and we are not marriage or ever been.. I also believe my son is sycotict ….  unstoppable behaviour issues, fights my 3 year old daughter and smacks her, I seen this myself at my home.. I believe my ex family are sycotic too, my ex mental heath issues, nasty nasty owords me, she don’t read between the lines and only hears what she wants too. she very dominating woman, believes she invincible, attuited of I can do what the hell I want. she an evil cow towards me, and I have taken a lot of crap from her for an long time now. what can I do to see my daughter ? don’t want contact with my son, they to much to deal with my son, I don’t know the answer to hes behaviour and what he be like in my care, the mother is far from trust worthy, not being attacked from her no way, I believe she try any think to rid me off from contact or even if had contact still I believe she try make story’s up , ….. I not even registered on birth certificate, but I am with my daughter,. I am not working due to a back health condition. I know this is a lot to take in, but I want time with my child, what can I do ? go back to court ?

    #18943 Report

    Roses
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    Hi Richie

    Thanks for sharing your story on  the forum, we hope that others will be able to share their experiences and advice.

    I’ve sent you a separate message with some signposting to organisations that might be able to help.

    Take care

    Rose

    #18944 Report

    richie
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    Thank you very much. Were do I look for extra info?  Will it be sent to my email address..?

    #18964 Report

    Lj234
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    why is she not allowing you to have contact?

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    Edward1234
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    Mate I battled my ex for 5 years in and out of court. She wouldn’t turn up, stuck two fingers up to the court.. proper asbo case. She had a long history with social services etc and I was just a normal working man traveling 160 miles every fortnight to pick my daughter up without fail. But even though the mum continued to be out of control (and my daughter would be put at risk in her care)the courts preferred to work with her than let my daughter live with me. It took for the mum to get a prison sentence for me to get full custody of my daughter in the end. The court system is very one sided in the mother’s favour I can assure you that- but if you are on the birth certificate you have parental rights and you will get contact. Don’t listen to anything the mum says just put in a contact order to the court and represent yourself. They will force her to give you contact. But don’t keep calling her or do anything aggressive just stay calm and patient and when the order is made she won’t have a say about your time with your kids. Hope this helps.

    Good luck bro.

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    richie
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    why is she not allowing you to have contact? you really want to know. I’ll tell you.

    well for many reasons.

    She has a disabled child and her mother has taken all affority  over that child since birth. No legal rights either she just taken the child off her.

    And the same for my kids too, iv’e had my ex try and leave home with my kids, stating that her mom has batten her up tying get out the house, so my ex has came alone to my home bursting in tears, I had the police out, the social services, everybody I could think off to get to help us and what was my ex told..  To go back to the mother and forget about me.. All this happen 2 years ago, because after that she left me for that 2 years but not totally..  That She try and see me when she was able too, say she wants me back with the children to live with me.

    Well as time moved on , I think she just gave up trying, I would ask her while I had contact with her…  I want us to try together for the children, as yeah I loved her,  but I would get pure abuse,  she state my mother and family hate your guts, stay away from the house, make accuses you sleeping with over women. yeah wright… Times she say I don’t live at the house I’ve moved out..

    In the end I figured it out this untrusty stuff, she went with someone else herself, telling who ever she was with not to use facebook. Being very private with herself. I cached on with what she was up too. And when got the chance to be able spk with her, more abuse from her, dreadful lye’s.

    Id say when I could do so,  I taking you court and I got mega abuse even still. she’s a crafty get.. while in my case she contact me and gave me all the lies, I come back end the case.. Well I did because it just seemed easier to-do that and id see my kids.. 6 weeks after that she phone me I can not make it my son is sick at school and I am at the doctors with him, sorry I am unable to come over I will come the week after..

    I new this was b – shit, as iv’e had this before from her, I mention why you lying to me for, playing silly buggers on me yet again.. Next I got mega abuse, you only using me off… and you sleeping with girls… So see the pattern she knows she can not come to me because she knows her mother can not copy on her own with the disable boy..  she cart cope with my own son, because he’s off the scales, why I mentioned before I think he psychotic..

    She gets threated from family, if  that she comes to me, they her family mention well stick the disabled boy in care, I personally think now my ex just finds it easier to have me out the way, Does as her mother says to some extent, be with guys who ever she wishes to be with, have her feet under the table.. Hate the father off and give abuse to me. Had to put up with this for 8 years now..

     

    She slams my health down, she tied to rid me of benefits before, she accuses my mother of slapping my son which is the latest b-shit from her mouth,..

    I had my ex tell me she locks my kid away in the shed when he plays up, her mother has smack the kids, and she’s left her disabled kid wet and distressed, iv’e been told that my daughter is dead and o we have our son still, and that every think is my fault. and to top that all of her father was totally disabled and lived in the house some years ago who was an ex drinker.

    And he died in the house..  I’ve had social services down their mothers, and they done sod all, All I got back that I was provoking and lying and that I get in trouble for doing that. And my ex told me this when that I got back with her after my case.

    But I just put all past me, as I had her back and my kids and she left me for now reason and I new it was because her family had a massive blow at her to keep away from me like im the problem in all this.  No they are and they need be fully investigated and that I need to have my daughter, because now she is following bad attuites, swearing ect…  my little girl of 3 gonna end up physoctic.. like the rest of them..

    Latest being said tome, I’ve got a good home, the kids are in a routine, the kids ae clothed and looked after and well feed, my family still hate your guts, leave me alone you’ve scared me and the kids. B-shit too.

     

     

     

     

     

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    • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by richie.
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by richie.
    #18987 Report

    richie
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    Edward1234

    I am with you mate. thank you for your messaged. I hope all goes well for you. it seems as if you had some stick yourself. All I known is to carry on with what you belive in, fight for your wrights and have total faith. because all I ever think off myself faith is all I have left..

    Thank you….

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by richie.
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by richie.
    #19066 Report

    Hi Richie

    Thankyou for continuing to share your experiences with the forum community.  I will be in contact by email to ensure you have received the signposting information which Rose sent through previously.

    Take care

    Justine

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