hi all I’ve been separated for 4mths from my husband. I’m happy to go as at later date if I was to go to court at least I can show I tried with him. Wanted to ask what things should I have on paper to talk about? Do I tell them why I left? And my concerns regarding my children with him?
Some of these links might be of interest. The only thing you could prepare in advance is a draft Parenting Plan (I can email you a format document if you PM me). This then becomes something over which you can negotiate – but it would be helpful if your husband saw it prior to mediation, and sent a copy to the mediator also, otherwise you can’t really discuss at the first meeting. The background is less important than how you move forward as amicably as possible. You don’t want it to be an airing of dirty laundry – if you go to court they’ll only care what you’re both doing in the best interests of the children. Obviously if there is an access issue that was part of why you split up such as abuse or alcohol/drugs, etc then that will need to be a key part of access issues. The Parenting Plan helps with money issues also. All the best.