Hi.
I am wondering if your username says anything about your life and from which perspective you are giving your opinion.
If you read carefully you will see JuMar1 says her sons dad is not willing to converse or compromise in a mature fashion.Neither does it appear he cares about much other than getting his own way.From my own life experience I have learned you cannot force a loving relationship.You would be wise to note the child is autistic. Do you know anyone autistic? I wish you a lot of joy in convincing an autistic child to do something against their will.Your way Everyone stands to lose.If the child’s father has half a brain and was really concerned he would bribe the child back and shower him with love and stability.That is what was meant by ‘leave it to him’.
But,you are of course free to understand this as you will.