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Adam_1982
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It’s natural to have lots of emotions. I would say this though, maybe easier to say as a man, but analyse a bit more and use logic. This is in terms of why you made your decision to leave. There must have been reasons for the decision. Maybe you need to think about what was missing in that relationship and your old life. Maybe things at the moment aren’t looking so great but think about what you’d like from your life in future. Being single, a better relationship etc. Or just a different job or hobby. Maybe write down what you’d like from life, it’s a start. That’s not to say that will solve all your issues, we are human and emotions are tricky. But when you can calm your mind thinking a bit more analytically as to why you are where you are now in terms of the decision you made to end the relationship may help. What could have been better etc.? What did you learn from the relationship? Could you do anything better in future? I found it helpful to look at my own flaws rather than those of my ex, I can control what I can improve but can’t control my ex.

Not sure if that will help but those things helped me. But even so, everyone gets down days so that’s just how it goes. But hopefully brighter days will be ahead for you. You have to start by thinking what would make life better, going back to the past is rarely the answer.