Reply To: Sharing childcare

[Selma]

Hello,

I am in exactly same situation like you, having two boys 5 and 8 and sharing the time with their dad 3 nights with him 4 nights with me for past 2 years.

If your boy is asking to spend more time with you (you are so lucky) I would go by his wishes.
My boys father is also very controlling everything always had to be his way, only now I can make my own decisions. My boys are happy with the 60/40 arrangement, but I am so sad, because my life as a full time mum was my purpose. I did the 60/40 for the boys benefit definitely not mine. But If they would ever ask me please can we stay with you mum i wouldn’t hesitate. Sometimes they come back from their father with their brains washed!!!! Especially the little one.