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I’d call his bluff. I had the same with my ex partner.
CM was always done through a deductions of earnings order until he got a new job where he was self employed. As we were civil at the time (not when the deductions of earning was set up, but that was 4 years prior) we discussed a direct payment when CM has calculated how much he should pay me. 4 months later and I was still waiting, so asked CM to step in and take over as I didn’t want a direct payment from him anymore as he was unreliable, the exact reason I had a deductions of earnings in place at his previous job. Role on 10 months of him ignoring me pleas to sort out CM, and him ignoring all CM letters and phone calls, he got a new job where he was on a payroll, and CMS went straight for deductions of earnings with extra for arrears (he owed over £2,500 by this point.) He decides then to contact me to try and negotiate the amount, and if I didn’t agree he was going for apply for joint custody. Called his bluff and 2 years later he’s still not made the application and we get CM in a monthly basis through CMS.
Currently going through solicitors as that was the start of various incidents of domestic abuse (verbal and mental) and I’m in the process of applying for a consent order. He hasn’t seen his son in 12 weeks and still hasn’t even applied to the court for access, he’s just sat around letting me doing it, but hurling abuse at me for stopping him seeing his son. Sometimes you just can’t win with exes, and it’s hard when their are children involved to witness it, but call their bluff and show them what a strong woman and mother you are, and that you’re not going to put up with it.
I hope you get it sorted.