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yeahitsmilo
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Hey. I’ve been in a pretty similar situation to you actually. The mother of my two children left just over a year ago now. She had been through a very difficult period and our relationship just broke down in the end and she decided to take this fantastic job opportunity abroad. It’s been tough obviously, so I totally get where you’re coming from.

I’ve been in sole custody of our two girls since she left. They were only 3 and 1 at the time so it was a big adjustment for me (although I was already pretty hands on with them). If you’re feeling depressed it’s really important to try and reach out to friends and family if possible. I know that easier said than done even at the best of times, but during this pandemic it’s been extra tough. But it’s important you let people know how you are feeling so you can build some sort of support network if you can. I’m very lucky as my family (and especially my older sister) have been able to help a lot with the girls, which means I’ve been able to work still up until the lockdown happened.

Regarding benefits and financial support there is a lot out there. It definitely sounds like you should be eligible for some form of Universal Credit though. The Gingerbread advice line is actually really good in that regard. I phoned them up when I furst became a single dad a year ago now and they were a big help. If you have any specific questions though I will try and help.

Do let me know if you have any other questions about anything. If I can help I’ll try!