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J2011E
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Oh sweetheart. Firstly, you’re not alone. Not by any means. What you’ going through is awful; you’ve got to deal with the end of a relationship whether it’s a weight lifted or not, you’ve got a new baby and you’re a first time mum.

I would recommend you reach out to your family, even if you’ve fallen out before. Chances are they didn’t like your ex to begin with. A baby is a great joy for everyone. My family hated my ex and even suggested an abortion. But when my baby was born they were very supportive. I don’t know your family history, only you do so it’s a judgment call. Personally, I would give them the olive branch. Expect a few comments but they’ll soon die down.

Don’t let your ex spoil this time. I did and I really regret it. Celebrate your child. Get involved with support groups. If you’re breastfeeding (I wasn’t due to illness) there’s great support out there. If not ask your health visitor for information.

If you’re feeling better now the relationship is over your baby will feel better as they feed off your emotions.

You are never alone. Even if it’s just on here you feel supported. There’s always someone listening.