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Hey Rosie,

Much against EVERYONE’S advice, I changed my name by deed poll 6mths after I moved out of the family home we shared. My estranged husband and I are legally separated.
In a similar situation, he was having an affair, concealing it and was rumbling on making ‘plans’ to leave me high and dry before he got caught out. After establishing that and a good deal of debt in his name, I felt used, played and utterly manipulated. Why would anyone want to retain the name of man who treated them so badly? No, I. So I sent for a ‘deed poll pack’.
I think it cost me around £30. I signed, got a friend to counter sign and then it got sent away to be authorised. Didn’t take long at all. All banks, passport office etc accepted this as evidence of the change.

My little girl still has her Dad’s surname. She occasionally asks to change it to mine. That’s the only problem I’ve encountered. I had initially explained to her that when mum’s and dad’s split, mum’s can go back to the name before they met their dad. With it being the same as her Nana, she seemed happy with that.

My experience has been positive. And certainly help me move on.