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MummyEm9012
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I do see what your saying in terms of the tech need though too, but for 2 teens tech is their life, so it’s very difficult to find a way out of this situation. He also plays games with telling the kids they are going to miss out on amazing things like parties ect during our quality time together, regardless of how much i’ve tried to compromise, he’ll continiously book activities like wrestling, days out on our time together and obviously i feel i cant say no because it will upset the kids but he does it deliberately. He tells and (im aware) the kids to ask me to see him and not to tell me his asked them to start with and makes them feel guilty. I tried involving a mediator he said his famous phrase ‘ let me prove it to you, i can do this’ whilst behind the scenes he deliberately does everything he can to get an emptional reaction and my attention, like trying to have a go at me, the day my relative died and telling me it was my fault he was having ago because apparently i’m the only person that makes him feel like this, that my attempts to get on top of the situation are me being controlling. So I pulled out of mediation. He encourages the kids to phone and asks where Iam when i do a dog walk, he tells the kids they don’t need a bedtime at 12 and 13.  So i’m not sure where or how to go forward.