Thanks everyone , he’s going away so we can get space to think. As much as I love him what he did wasn’t acceptable. And I’d only consider taking him back if he proved it by doing some kind of sessions or classes for his issues or at least talking to the health visitor. He’s not really into all that but if we mean anything he would.
I think I’m going through the motions kinda grieving maybe. It’s more likely we will finish unless he does take action which I doubt will happen. But I’ll see in a few weeks how I feel after I’ve calmed down but myself and kids come 1st