I’m in the same boat! Our little boy is just 1 and I disagree in him doing a 200 mike journey to see his dad, I put my foot down last autumn and since then his dad’s visited him here.
however we’re currently waiting on a court hearing to decide what happens because we can’t agree.
Its frustrating because my ex partner accuses me of having a personal vendetta and that this is the reason I don’t let our son go to visit his house. When the reality is I don’t want our soon travelling 400 miles every other weekend!
put your foot down, we have to be our children’s voice. Just be prepared to go to court.