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Bunnyhop
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Thats a tricky one. Youve got access granted by a court which is great. But your ex is under no obligation to allow more access than the court has granted. You technically need to go back to court to get any changes made to an access order. Do you have video calls etc with your child during the 7 days you dont have physical custody? If not might be worth trying to arrange to set some form of video call up to make it easier to deal with the period of seperation. And obviously you need to speak to your child and explain that he is very much loved by both his parents and that although you unfortunately cant spend as much time with him at the moment, you are always thinking of him, you miss him when you dont see him and you really look forward to your visits with him. But at the end of the day if your ex doesnt wish to extend the current visitation then your only option would be court and it would be up to a judge to decide whether they felt it was in the childs best interest to make adjustments to the order or not. But youve got the standard kind of access that is usually granted so I dont know whether a judge would be willing to make adjustments. You cant have them every weekend as they need weekends with their mum and other family too. 50/50 would be the next option but you need to consider whether this is practical and whether it really would be in the best interest of the kids and then it is still up to a judge at the end of the day. Hope this helps