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Im sorry to hear this has happened. Dealing with break ups can be very difficult emotionally, especially when they are unexpected. It sounds like your partner has some issues of his own that he is needing to deal with and perhaps giving him the space to do this may be what is best for everyone in the long run. Whether he comes back to you or you remain seperated I dont know but certainly if he is suffering from mental health issues then you should refrain from pressurising him. You can remain supportive without putting pressure on a relationship or guilt over his feelings that the relationship is no longer working. I know you’re hurting and confused as to how things have gotten to this point – just remember it is not something youve done wrong. As sad as it is sometimes peoples wants, feelings and aspirations do change.


You’ve sent him some information and perhaps notifying a member of his family that he is close to and trusts that you believe he may be struggling at the moment is all you can do for him just now. Give each other some space and focus on your child. Perhaps attending mediation might help you both discuss your feelings and make arrangements financially and for your child.


I hope this is of some help and stay safe