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Adam79
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Hi again

You’re welcome MummyJu. Taking steroids can and does definitely alter a persons psyche, I’ve seen it first hand, particularly if it isn’t being done responsibly. And even if done properly changes them. Its a dump of additional synthetic testosterone into the system, which in turn creates a hormonal imbalance, and it definitely has an effect on a persons character. I’m not saying for a second that this excuses his behaviour or actions, nor should you put up with them. It does sound like he needs some help, not from you, professional help. If he was depressed in the first place, he may have taken them as a way of feeling better, and in the short term that may be the case. But another side effect is lows can get lower. It doesn’t sound like hes in a mindset to actually listen to any advice though at the moment, so I wouldn’t bother mentioning it.

Either way, he should certainly be providing for his kids, and not be giving you the run around so you do right seeking advise from a solicitor. Keep a close eye on his behaviour, and if theres a hint it’s starting to become more volatile, don’t hesitate to inform the police. He sounds like hes definitely being psychologically abusive as it is, at least hes not in the house any more. I know it’s a horrible thing to hear those type of things coming from the mouth of someone you’ve shared feelings with, but sharing these things, arms them with the means to say the most hurtful of words because they know they’ll hit the mark. He’s maybe trying to put everything on you because he can’t or doesn’t want to look at his own failings, hopefully he will dare to look at some point.