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BobRoss
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Like the previous comments, I wanted to emphasise that this is a form of abuse. Abusers will often use the tactic of claiming that they’re “just joking” or you’re being “too sensitive” in order to get away with putting you down, alienating your kids from you, and eroding your self confidence. You could look into mediation/counselling to try to reach an understanding and agreement with him, or consider Relate’s “separated parents” course – this might only be available to parents going through court, but perhaps there’s relevant info/behaviour guidelines on their website? If your kids are teenagers, it might be worth printing out some information from the internet about emotional abuse/alienation so that they can see that it’s not okay to behave in that way. I’d also agree with setting firm boundaries so they know they will lose privileges (WiFi!) if they speak to you in that way. It’s only a joke if everyone finds it funny- otherwise it’s not a joke, they’re making fun of you.