Reply To: Recovering dad wants to see kids
Well done on your road to recovery. Not an easy thing to do but you did it.
However, you do need to wake up a little bit. By your own admission you looked after your children whilst on drugs and they haven’t seen you for years because of your issues. And now you’re complaining about her being ‘in control’ of the situation. She has every right to be. She doesn’t have to forgive you suddenly and of course she feels protective over the children. The reason why there hasn’t been a court order is because she didn’t take it to court when she could have done. You need to be patient and understanding. They’ve moved on with their lives, it will be hard to let you back in. You may be ready for it but maybe they aren’t. Remember that it’s not all about you.
I’d just say okay, I understand, I want to prove to you that I have changed so you let me know how and when I can do that.