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Kath
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I get what you are saying Rob, I really do. You are right, it is all wrong but if this is happening on a regular basis the main one who is suffering is your child. You know I’m not defending mum in all this but look past her and keep your eyes focused on your child, she is the one that needs the help in this situation, she is the one caught in the middle and powerless to fix it. I know it can be grossly unfair and wrong. My ex hasn’t contibuted for years and no intention of doing so but he travels the world, it’s all wrong but I have to do what’s best for my son just like you do for your child. At the end of the day your child needs a meal at school and if the parent who is supposed to make that happen isn’t doing so then it is going to fall to the other parent or your child goes hungry, that’s sadly the top and bottom of it.

If you have any control over what is taken out for CM I would get in there and change the amount that goes out accordingly. If she or CM people take you to court over it you can tell the courts why you have done this. Mum would be shown in a bad light, perhaps she wouldn’t want that. The courts would take a dim view of her behaviour, may even reduce the amount you have to pay in CM.