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Rob in Leeds
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Thanks Kath

So it’s a case of allowing myself to be blackmailed into paying more than the CMS have calculated I should pay to contribute towards the kids living expenses whilst they’re not with me because their mother, quite frankly, is a nasty b**ch and doesn’t give a damn about what she’s doing to her daughter?

Why does it seem that there is so much bias towards the mother regardless of her behaviour towards the children? I’m not saying that your reply supports that by the way, but in general. I’ve done nothing wrong here, I pay the maintenance, I make on average a 10 hour round trip each weekend I have the children, I’ve never failed to turn up, I treat the kids well & they certainly don’t go hungry when they are with me. Having read some of the other threads on this forum I’m a saint in comparison to others yet there seems to be very little that I can do to make sure the kids are being properly provided for when they’re with the so-called main carer? Even the CMS said they have no jurisdiction over what the “receiving parent” spends the Child Maintenance money on and if you pay it to anyone other than her then they can turn around and take action against you! This system is messed up.

If the situation were the reverse there’s no way I would lower myself to the point where I’d send the kids to school knowing they’d be hungry let alone ask my ex for more money to feed them whilst I was busy booking my 5th foreign holiday of the year!