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Rob in Leeds
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Thanks for taking the time to reply.

JJ you’ve offered nothing to the request for some help, no constructive advice just accusations that I’ve been aggressive, posted inflammatory comments etc and of course that I’m simply blaming “Mum”. None of which you’ve substantiated.

That’s not particularly helpful or supportive at all, especially for a 1st time poster, I thought that was the point of this forum or is it just because I’m a man? Anyway, that’s enough about you.

Greenfingers, of course sadly I think you’re right about the mother changing her stance, or behaviour and not entering into the conversation is a sensible idea. At 16 my son can, and does work, that’s unfortunately the biggest reason why I see less of him now. I agree he could use his own money to buy himself lunch and perhaps that’s a good suggestion if a pack up isn’t available or not of his liking. At 11 my daughter is in a different situation, she already gets pocket money when she’s with me and to be frank I’m quite happy for her to spend it on whatever she chooses.  The issue I have though is the kids shouldn’t be put in a position such as this in the first place. If I wasn’t paying regular maintenance or if their mother was struggling to make ends meet then it would be a different discussion entirely, but that’s simply not the case. I guess I’ll have to see if anything changes and if not, take some action.

thanks again

Rob