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Greenfingers
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I agree Rob, that’s not a great email and doesn’t paint mum in a good light. Unfortunately, it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to change mums stance on the issue. All I could say is at 16yrs, the older 2 are entitled to work so have the ability to earn if they want something, the younger one not so. I think in your position I would start to give pocket money, either cash fortnightly or pay into bank account with cash card, maybe £5 per week. That way she/he can choose to spend the money on lunch at school if they wish. I recognise that that’s money in excess of CMS but with it going direct to the child. It’s a nice way of her to learn how to manage her money too. She’ll be able to get a pasta pot or something similar for £1 I’m sure. Or if she wanted to save some then you could teach her how to reduce cost of lunch by making sandwiches. Personally, I get the kids to earn the pocket money by washing pots, emptying bin, tidying their room etc but that’s personal choice

The other point to make is that it takes 2 people to argue. Remove yourself from the argument and it becomes the rant of one 😁