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Well done for posting.

Sadly, I am only too familiar with this situation. Nearly a decade on I am sitting in a calm home, far away from ex. We still have our issues but your post reminds me of the hell we went through and so I’m glad i’m reading it this morning and able to say something.

Yes, the short answer is, you can go and live with your parents, all else can be sorted out later, your health is a priority. However, you may not want to do this and there are other options. Three being namely, go to a women’s refuge with your kids where there will be professional support in addition to your family. People think they are always scruffy horrible places, but some nowadays have self-contained flats etc. Talk to women’s aid, google it and also post not using your name on the survivors forum.

I’m not going to talk about the other steps – because you will be needing to take things one step at a time.

The most important thing to remember right now is not to tell your ex you are wanting to leave. This is for safety reasons as abuse, emotional, physical or any other which way tends to get worse with time, but situation can be dangerous just before you leave.

Thinking of you. You can do this. Yes, it is a long road, but also a much brighter future for you and your kids.