Reply To: Dad – shift worker wants to see my son
I’ve separated with my partner and he also does shiftwork but it changes every week so no real pattern and it is really tricky to feel or get organised and can get very frustrating.
Its now been 8 months and i think the trick is to both be 100% flexible. My partner has our daughter every other weekend but this does change. He also has her for holidays 3 weeks of the year and picks her up from school 2 times a week. I have to make a 1 hour detour after work to collect her but again that’s ok as she gets time with her dad.
I would love to be able to have handovers on certain days but you have to look at the positives, if i get poorly i can call him and he’ll take over and vice versa.
<li style=”text-align: left;”>I feel that this works, although there are frustrations, the most important thing is for the kids to know that you love them and will always be there for them whatever hours you can have them, just have to do the best you can.
Also, does your shift pattern allow you time to yourself, i think that’s important too.
You’ll get there, good luck