Reply To: Still struggling. Separated 9 months.
Aw mate, I have totally been there. I had to adjust to seeing my girl 3.5 days a week instead of 7 and it was AWFUL for a long time, but the following really helped:
– transcendental meditation, twice daily
– a determination to change my thinking from ‘I miss my daughter + being a single parent is really hard’ to ‘I have 3.5 days of child-free wife-free autonomy and freedom + I have 3.5 days of quality time with my girl.’ That deliberate change of thinking made me feel pretty lucky overall, even though it was still hard.
– time. I got used to it in the end.
Then when she started school I had to get used to seeing her for 2 days instead of 3.5. That took a while too, but I got there.
Now the new challenge is my ex is trying to force me to accept every other weekend instead of EVERY weekend. I can’t accept that. Will it ever end?
Best of luck,