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MonkeyMagic74
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Aw mate, I have totally been there.  I had to adjust to seeing my girl 3.5 days a week instead of 7 and it was AWFUL for a long time, but the following really helped:

– transcendental meditation, twice daily

– a determination to change my thinking from ‘I miss my daughter + being a single parent is really hard’ to ‘I have 3.5 days of child-free wife-free autonomy and freedom + I have 3.5 days of quality time with my girl.’  That deliberate change of thinking made me feel pretty lucky overall, even though it was still hard.

– time.  I got used to it in the end.

Then when she started school I had to get used to seeing her for 2 days instead of 3.5.  That took a while too, but I got there.

Now the new challenge is my ex is trying to force me to accept every other weekend instead of EVERY weekend.  I can’t accept that.  Will it ever end?

Best of luck,

MonkeyMagic74.