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Pumpkin62
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I had to teach myself to lower my expectations majorly and learn to live in more chaos. I realised I was getting overwhelmed with everything – cleaning / tidying the house, sorting finances etc – they all felt too big and scary. Breaking everything down into small chunks works so much better for me, I feeling I am getting things done, however small and that makes me feel good.
I had to get rid of my cleaner when I split with my ex, so it felt like yet another huge addition to my load. I change the towels and kids beds whilst the kids are splashing in the bath one night, they love messing around with the duvet covers being put on. My bed is done another night. Bathroom another night. Hoovering is usually on the weekend and the kids like to get involved. I think it’s also good for the kids to get involved and see that it’s hard work keeping the house clean and tidy!

Like JessicaJones does, I bought a small cheaper clothes rail and plastic hangers, my clothes dry on there and don’t need ironing! And my dishwasher is amazing, don’t know what I’d do without it.
be good to yourself, if you and your kids are clothed, fed and where you need to be each day, you’re doing a fab job.