Reply To: Recently separated
Your ex is foolish & thoughtless of what’s best for his children. It must feel terrible.
even if their relationship is of longer standing than you think, he cannot yet be sure that it will go the distance, and is involving his kids is for his own benefit rather than what is best for them.
legally he is entitled to introduce them to whoever he wishes, so other than talking to him, I’m not sure there is much you can do, so stay calm, be non-committal and call her daddy’s friend. Most kids aren’t fooled by bribery. And she may not be that keen on becoming an instant step mum either. Let them draw their own conclusions, listen & reassure them. And be kind to yourself x