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Emmaj84

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thats what’s going through my mind though! Sometimes I feel like it’s a cheap mind game tactic, he’s playing  so when she’s older he can say “I bought you stuff and spent a fortune on you! And your mum still wouldn’t let me see you”…. not the case at all.  To be fair with every “gift drop” she gets it screws with my head a bit. Making me question if he really does care, then I think if he cared he’d sit in an hour long mediation meeting to arrange contact.
sometimes I think I shouldn’t accept the gifts, but then that would be wrong as well “I sent you stuff and your mum sent it back, she cut me out completely” catch 22.
maybe it’s something he does so he can tell people in the pub how generous he is, so he can enjoy a beer without people glaring at him, thinking what a deadbeat he is for turning his back on a second child.
unfortunately my daughter isn’t the first child he’s walked away from.