Reply To: How to get out of poverty trap
Mojo, you are absolutely not failing your son, quite the opposite.
I am not in the same situation as you but when I first split from ex, I was really struggling. Then I focussed on getting a job & house & school really close to each other, and finding another mum to partner with.
Everything being close cuts the need for wrap around care. It takes away commuting costs & stress. And sharing the load with another mum makes it easier too. Even now ds is at senior school, I still do morning run for another mum so I can work until 5 while she does the evening run.
Where are you based? Have you tried looking for a local Gingerbread group. Maybe someone to share?