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Do either of you claim any benefits such as tax credits or universal credit?
If so this complicates the sfurther as the cb is a gateway benefit, so would result in significantly smaller payouts on those for the person not receiving the cb.
If neither claim, then I would suggest that as you have stated you request it to be paid to you officially BUT in the nature of shared, will set up a direct debit for half the cb to her on a monthly basis.
If she refuses, you can apply directly for the cb to be transferred and then they will decided who receives it.