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Kathymumofone
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Kath is right, your wife has to deal with this herself. She will soon learn that life without budgeting is pretty miserable.

There are lots of things you can do to support your little one though. Rather than give your ex money for school uniform, shoes, winter coat etc buy them yourself.

In theory each parent should buy things for the children, to be at each house, but with a bit of good will and organisation, it is possible to share & keep costs down. I do this with my ex.

Thankfully, most small children aren’t bothered by surroundings as long as they are warm, well fed and happy. Your wife has a couple of years before your daughter will notice that the area isn’t as good. Rather than pay for your ex to live somewhere upmarket, perhaps go for a sensible financial split but offer help with redecorating, moving etc. to get her settled.

It is more important that you are both financially secure and can provide for your little one. And don’t feel guilty