Reply To: Equal Parental Accountability
I’ve never had anyone tell me to just accept my ex’s ineptitude, but I know what you mean. It’s difficult but there are benefits to being the proactive parent.
My ex does almost nothing. This is a man who looks after ds about 35 nights a year if I push, and then complains. He forgets ds’ birthday or gets his age wrong. He complained when school dinners went up by 5p (of which he pays half).
However, I get to choose which school, make sure ds can swim and cycle properly, decent food (mostly) , how much screen time, because he can’t be bothered.
I can give ds the best I can afford without ex getting in the way, and protect him from ex’s ingrained sexism. I can’t change my ex so I try to turn parenting freedom into a positive instead.