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@solomummy it sound like you were responding to my post. I was not suggesting he come and go as he pleases. I was suggesting regular contact and help, giving him a chance to bond with his child (for the child’s benefit). The rest is what worked for me and as stated now I’m in a great place, as are my children. You seem to have very rigid rules on how contact should take place. There is no rule book and each person should do what works for them. It’s a very emotive subject and hopefully she has a massive support network that will help her get through. There are many ways an adult can deal with trauma, what he done is awful, however that needs to be separated from his ability to be a decent father. It is important for children to have both parents in their life where possible and it is up to us as adults to use our emotional intelligence to do what’s best for our children.

I had my ex and my mother at the birth and they were both super supportive.