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Hi EmmaJ84

i went through something similar except I was 5 months pregnant and had an older child, when he announced he had a child with another woman. I decided to let him be there and be part of it, as it’s important for the baby to bond with their father. In the early days you’re going to need as much help as possible so I would suggest investing in a good breast pump and expressing so you can get help and rest when needed. It was extremely hard because I felt my whole world had been crushed, but it’s important to allow yourself time to heal and go through the motions. For me it literally felt like a bereavement but my beautiful babies kept me going and I came through the other side better for it. It’s important to communicate with your ex and let him know exactly how he made you feel, not so you can guilt trip him or put him down, but I felt it helped me come to terms with everything and it was part of the healing process. Today we are on good terms and put the children first. I’ve honestly learned so much about myself and I know you will be fine.

i wish you the best x