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You are being a good parent Claire.

I agree with everyone else above, Kath’s suggestion about clearly defined boundaries, and explaining how you will communicate in future is spot on and absolutely your child shouldn’t be caught in the middle of all this.  You can then keep a record of any correspondence for future reference should you need any evidence demonstrate abusive behaviour and take legal action if necessary.   As for your kid, she may be young but she will be extremely aware of all this and it will affect her so do what you have to ensure this doesn’t happen – just make sure that while she is with you she doesn’t witness anything that is not her burden to carry – be it arguments on phone or letting her see you upset at some text message he’s sent or whatever, just focus on that time you have and make it as good as possible.  Some kind of mediation (either professional or voluntary such as a neutral 3rd party) may be needed to try to sort out visitation and I’d focus on this before anything else just so that your child has some kind of routine, as well as you of course.

All the best